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Post by Cassie on Jul 6, 2007 14:40:05 GMT -5
Why do you think its wrong?
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Post by comeoneileen711 on Jul 16, 2007 20:00:02 GMT -5
i think having sex b4 marriage is ok. people say that once u have sex, ur a very *friendly* person and u'll have emotional problems after that. but that's is not true! sex is meant to be fun! not some horrible thing like some people say, and as long as ur wearing protection and being safe i feel there is nothing wrong w/ it. i personally am waiting b/c that's my own decision.and i feel i'm a little too young to be having sex (i'm 14) but i feel sex is perfectly fine
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Post by Cassie on Jul 16, 2007 22:20:08 GMT -5
Thats pretty much how I feel, if you want to wait, thats great if thats what you want, if you dont, thats fine too. It is a personal choice and I dont see anything wrong with not waiting.
I dont think you'll get emotional problems. I think what they mean is it makes girls feel much more attached to their guy but it usually doesn't make guys feel the same way. So it can cause breakups if the guy finds the girl clingy after that.
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Post by ~♥Jesus Freak♥~ on Aug 13, 2007 15:27:52 GMT -5
I disagree with sex before marriage. When you have sex, you are giving part of yourself to the other person. When 2 people have sex its joining 2 people to be one. If you sleep around then you meet the one person and get married, what are you to give them on your wedding night? You have nothing to give. Your virginity is like your wedding gift to your spouse. Its saying "I waited for you, for this to be special, to give myself to the one I love"
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Post by Cassie on Aug 13, 2007 18:01:44 GMT -5
The first time is never (well, maybe not never, but almost never) good. Do you really want to be in pain and bleeding on your wedding day? Thats not always the case but it usually is, more the pain then the bleeding. Neither of you would know what your doing and will likely not enjoy yourselves much. On your wedding day your giving you spouse the rest of your life. Isn't that a more precious gift then virginity?
Just my opinion
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Post by ~♥Jesus Freak♥~ on Aug 14, 2007 14:36:38 GMT -5
It may be painful, and you may not know what your doing, but thats something yall can learn together. You may be giving them the rest of your life, but if your not a virgin, your really not giving them all of you. Because you've already given part of yourself away.
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Post by FreeStyle08 on Aug 17, 2007 20:33:10 GMT -5
I agree with nikki.
and if you wait until your wedding night then even though there is pain and all that its still VERRY special becuase its your first time and you are sharing it with the person that you love and that you will be sharing the rest of your life with. unless there is a devorce or something but ya.
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Post by [J u m p r g r l ♥] on Aug 17, 2007 21:41:08 GMT -5
I totally agree with Nikki and JJ.
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Post by Cassie on Aug 17, 2007 21:59:20 GMT -5
Its not nessecarily only the first time either, it can often be up to 5 days after that it will be painful. That would 100% ruin the honeymoon for me.
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Post by FreeStyle08 on Aug 18, 2007 20:44:12 GMT -5
ya it still may be painfull but again its something veary specail that you experanced with your spouse and its something that you shouldnt share with any one else and pain and every thing its still all worth it.
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Post by Cassie on Aug 18, 2007 20:59:17 GMT -5
I also dont see it as something that special. Idk, different opinions I guess.
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Post by FreeStyle08 on Aug 21, 2007 12:54:26 GMT -5
cassie I can see where you are coming from and I know where I,nikki, and mia are coming from too, and really there isnt one right answer here.
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Post by Cassie on Aug 21, 2007 19:00:26 GMT -5
Ya, whats right for one person isn't always right for others. But idk, I just dont see the point. I dont really care or believe its a gift to your spouse. The gift is the enjoyment in my opinion, not the fact that its the first time.
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