BOY TRUBLE

[FreeStyle08]

I HATE THIS I HATE ERNIE

a few days ago Ernie told me that he thinks he likes me more as a freind then a girl friend, and he said that he didnt know what he wanted in life. well I gave him 1 day to call me which he never did so I called him the next night and I told him it was over, 1) becuase I dont want to play this little game with him.
2) it would have hurt me worce if he told me it was over.
amd 3) I dont like to be hanging there not noing what he is going to pull next.

whats wrong with me am I not pritty enough for him, am I to tom boy, WHAT DID I DO WRONG

I cant stop thinking about him wishing that this was all a nightmere but every morning I wake up and feeling worce then the day before.

and what makes it worce is we got to gather on friday the 13 and we broke up exactly 3 months later.

I know that friday the 13 is just a superstition but I seriously think that its bad luck.

[Mia]

Oh JJ, I'm so sorry. You are beautiful and i'm sure that's not why he broke up with you. We all love you, and so does God.

Blech, i'm sorry, i'm even worse at advice giving today than I am normally. I'm not feeling good and I really can't think. I'll let Nikki take over.

[FreeStyle08]

thanks Mia, and get to feeling better.

I just cant get him out of my mind and that makes me sad becuase im not with him any more.

I love you to mia.

[-Irwin Girl-]

JJ it's hard.I had a boy 'debating' wether to go out with me or not for a few days.That's the last time I do that. I know its veyr hard after somethign yuot hought was so perfect is so screwed up.Love is twisted, its unknown and nobody holds the secret.He obviously wasn't good enough for you, for JJ you deserve some handsome nicekind guy to take you out.You're right you're not pretty enough for him, you are too beautiful, too smart and just too good for him.Don't let him think he didn't deserve you convince him by showing him how amazing you are that you are way too good for soembody who jsut forgets to call and somebody who doesn't treat you like the gem you are.Ohh theres a saying or something its like all the guys who aren't good enoguh for you will make you cry,but the one who is right for you will only make you smile. Really bad version of it but you get the message:)

[FreeStyle08]

Thanks Kansas.

and you are right I dont need someone that forgets to call me, and makes me cry.

I just hope he relizes what an *ss he has been.

[-Irwin Girl-]

he will, guys want what they cant have and once they have it they dont want it.Theey are super strange:)

[~♥Jesus Freak♥~]

Ok.. I know exactly how you feel. I was recently asking those same questions.

1.) You don't hate him. Ask yourself honestly, do you hate him? No, your hurt by him.
2.) Screw him. He missed out on the best thing that could ever happen to him.
3.) Your gorgeous. Don't ever think or let anyone tell you differently.
4.) Maybe he's confused on what he wants. Or maybe, its getting to serious for him, he's falling for you and scared. Doesn't know what to do, what he's feeling, ect.
5.) Don't let him hurt you anymore. Keep your head up, no guy should EVER have to the power to make you keep your head down. Ever.

Kansas; the saying is; The wrong guys will make you cry; the right one will only make you cry tears of joy. or somethin like that.... grr.. I had it when I read your post but lost it by the time I finished typing my response.

Anyway, JJ, we love you. You are gorgeous. He's missing out on a great girl. Maybe one day he'll see that. God loves you, keep your head up, girl. *Hug*

[-Irwin Girl-]

well i was close..for me anyways:)

[-Irwin Girl-]

ohh another one(or maybe the one i was thinking of,who knows) is 'No boy is worth your tears, and if you find one who is he won't make you cry'

[~♥*Ren*♥~]

Aww JJ! You are completely gorgeous don't you ever forget that! And don't forget that we and God love you too! <33
Like Nikki said, don't let some boy bring you down. You'll find a kind guy to be with. You deserve that, not what you were getting.<3
And who cares if you're a tom boy? I am too! They say time heals everything, that probably isn't true, but for this, only time will heal it, you'll get over him, trust me. When I had to break up with my boyfriend it took me a few weeks to get over him and I thought I never would, but I did. And now we're really good friends.
I love youuuuuu! <333

[FreeStyle08]

thanks guys, and nikki thank you for pointing out all that you have and I didnt relize that most of thoughs questions I know the answer to.

but honestly I think that the relationship was getting to deep for him and he has told me on several occations that he is afraid to get close to anyone.

I seen him for the first time since we broke up and I didnt relize how hard it was going to be to not fall back into are normal role of hold hand when i drive and kissing and stuff. I also went to see Dr. Sears today and once I told him that me and ernie broke up he warned me about retraining your self like not holding hands not kissing and stuff like that. and honestly I didnt know how hard that was going to be, I was driving and it was all I could do to keep my right hand on the stering wheel. it felt so awkward not holding hands and stuff.

but one thing i wasnt ready for was all the differant emotions once I seen him in person again. I was mad,happy,p*ssed off, and all but feeling all that at once is a lot to try to swallow.

I love you all and thanks for all your help.

and incase that you havent figured it out yet me and ernie are still friends. LOL

[FreeStyle08]

oh and no I do not hate ernie.

[Cassie]

He's not worth it at all JJ. You deserve someone thats going to make you 100% happy and treat you like a princess. We all love you, but you already know that.

[~♥Jesus Freak♥~]

It is very hard to adjust from loving someone to just being friends. I know that one just as well as the next girl! But, you'll get it. You may be angry at him for a little while, but you'll settle that and if wanted, yall can become best of friends. Just takes time.

We love you. *Hugs* <33333333